Are you dreaming of going on your first solo trip but getting butterflies or even fear in your stomach just thinking about it? Then you need my comprehensive guide on how to plan a solo trip (and travel) like a PRO!
I have traveled solo as a female for close to 3 decades! And I still remember the first time I traveled alone for a whole week to Rome, Italy. One of the most beautiful cities in the world, and I was there by myself.
It turned out great! And you will find out that, too, when you get going, it will turn out better than you imagined.
Did you know that a staggering 84% of all solo travelers are women? And there is absolutely no reason you can not be one of them.
10 Reasons Solo Travel Is Really Good For You
If you have already conquered your fears and are just looking for a concrete how-to list for planning your trip, you can just skip down to Solo Trip Planning: Step-By-Step Guide.
However, if you are mentally still “on the fence” and looking for inspiration and advice to decide whether you want to travel solo, I will start by looking at your mindset and hitting you with ALL the reasons you should do at least one solo journey in your lifetime!
These are not just my opinions; I have researched tons of articles and statistics about solo travel, and below, you can see the most common things people say they love about traveling solo.
What solo travelers say about why solo travel is so rewarding:
So, considering all these good things, why doesn’t everyone travel solo?
Well, not everyone wants to, that is one thing.
Secondly, there often is a fair share of fear and worries involved before embarking on a solo journey for the first time, which requires you to get out of your current comfort zone before you can take on the world.
10 Common Fears Holding You Back From Solo Travel
Not everyone thinks the same, but here are ten common fears and worries women have about traveling alone. If some of these resonate with you, know that you are not alone!
While researching this article, I learned that one of the concerns women have about traveling solo is the fear of being stereotyped and judged.
Now, this was a very unexpected element for me.
In my own Northern European culture, the possible stereotyping you might get from traveling solo, if any, would be “courageous, tough, amazing, unstoppable, brave,” and that sort of thing.
Stereotyping or not, the idea of taking on the world all by yourself can be daunting at first if you have never done it before.
If you have never organized travel planning for yourself, met new cultures on your own, dealt with language barriers, or found your way in new places, it might seem risky to you.
However, I am going to argue that these worries are lies, in a way, or at least products of your imagination.
Constructed by you (and/or imposed by your surroundings), they do not reflect the objective reality and are, quite frankly, not telling you the complete truth.
Understand That Your Worried Mind Is There To Protect You
After traveling solo all over the world for decades, I am here to tell you that all the worries and restrictions you may have are simply constructs in your head.
These fears, worries, and what-ifs (negative ones) are your mind trying to predict future threats and protect you from possible bad things.
Because your brain’s most important job is to keep you safe.
To do this, it uses all available previously stored information from experiences you have had that has created your personality, which includes a set of perceptions, a fair share of bias, and a worldview that currently determines how you look at (in this case) traveling solo.
I am not saying that nothing can be dangerous while traveling, but I am saying that your mindset, choices, and decisions are the most important tools you have to stay safe.
And I am not alone either; 72% of women asked in the US say they have taken a holiday alone, which means that they probably consider it to be sufficiently safe. As the vast majority of these come home happy and empowered, and in one peace is more evidence, still.
A fun fact: do you know that the weird fear of eating out alone is so common it, in fact, has a name: solomangarephobia! (Briefly explained, it is an “irrational fear of being judged by others as a lonely loser eating alone in a restaurant”).
After seeing all these reasons why you should travel solo and how you can do so, I have to give a fair warning: once you have become a solo traveler, there is no easy way back to traveling with all your friends and family (although you love them)!
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Getting Over Your Limiting Beliefs
The feeling of absolute freedom, peace, excitement, and wonder when you are waiting to board an outbound flight, possibly indefinitely, is an exhilarated state of mind that can not be properly explained, at least not by me.
In order to get to this point, you not only have to find out what is holding you back, but you must also really feel what you want on the inside, your why, and what value this will add to your life!
So what I want you do to, is this:
- List the reasons you can not (or have not) traveled solo
- Test these reasons: are they objectively true?
- Can these reasons be solved, mitigated, or dismissed in any way?
- Now list the reasons why you want to travel solo; what are your goals
- Look at your list and make up your mind about how important these solo travel goals are for your life to be as valuable as you want it to be. Still a yes?
- Now, in your mind’s eye (close your eyes for this one), see your future self returning from a bucket list adventure. Your heart is filled with new experiences; you have met interesting new people and learned a lot about yourself and the world, all by your empowered self. How do you feel?
You see yourself in another light; you see LIFE in another light when you meet the world alone—your perspective shifts.
I used to think that the Big Journeys, the Grand Experiences, should probably wait until I found someone to share them with. But I never met my fellow traveler soulmate. Then what?
Since time flies, this was a decisive point for me. I simply had to change my mind about waiting for the right company to go do the amazing things I dreamed about. So, I made a decision, bought a backpacker-backpack, and set off!
NOW, of course, I know that going solo traveling is probably the most magical, amazing, liberating, educational, mind-growing, and personality-evolving single thing I have ever done.
It happens when you suddenly understand that all you need to do ANYTHING is what you already have within you.
Traveling Alone Expands Your Mind And Your World
The thing is, you notice things easier when you are traveling alone because almost all your attention is directed OUT towards the world as you go (not towards your fellow traveler(s).
Really, it is like you forget all about everyday people-pleasing and overly active self-awareness (the bad kind).
Traveling has the general side effect of increased relativity in almost all aspects, I think, and a solo journey is probably the most valuable investment you may actually make in your whole life.
If you travel alone for long periods or even shorter ones, regardless, I promise you the effect will last indefinitely.
You KNOW what you are capable of now.
If your inner Vagabond has been listening to the WHY so far, below is more about HOW you can find your solo traveler nomad heart AND get the advice you need to get going.
Solo Trip Planning – Step By Step Guide
If you are serious about your desire to travel alone but need a little gentle push to get from travel dreams to plan, start planning a solo trip by setting up your travel bucket list.
Get yourself a traveler’s notebook and start journaling. Write down all the places you want to go to and write down why.
1. Decide Your Destination
In this first phase, you are on a mission to find your DREAM destination.
- Make your personal travel bucket list
- Prioritize which destinations are more important to you than others and why
- From your shortlist, decide which destination is within reach within the next year, financially and in all other aspects
- CONGRATULATIONS, you have just made your first decision, deciding on your first solo trip destination that you will visit within one year!
- From here, you are now in the planning phase: who, what, where, when, how.
Write down in your new confident solo female traveler notebook (with your name on it) the name of your first solo destination; “My trip to xyz“.
2. Create Your Plan
An IDEA without a PLAN is still only a DREAM – you need to make it actionable for you.
Your second decision needs to be WHEN you can make the journey.
Factors that may affect this decision are:
- Your work situation
- Monthly income and expenses = potential to save up money if you need to
- Your family situation
- Social duties
- Your preferences: destinations, duration, activities, and standard?
Talk to whoever in your world needs to be PART of the process if you have such stakeholders in your life, and make sure they approve of your DREAM and your PLAN.
After doing this, identify a time in the future when it will be possible for you to take time out of your life to travel, even if it is not as long as you would prefer.
Then you make the second decision, when you are going to go, and you hold yourself accountable. Now you have your dates set.
Set up a timeline, or something like a timeline from now until your date of departure, in your calendar or on a large piece of paper all over your wall. You need VISUALISATION of your plan, and you need to create decisive points on the timeline of things that need to be done.
Great, the next thing you need to decide is your budget.
You need to have a budget that is both attainable and sensible to be able to make the journey you are planning.
3. Solo Trip Planning – The Important Budget!
Your BUDGET is the important next step. You need to identify how much money you can spend on your journey in total.
Your budget is pretty much divided into two parts. The expenses before departure, and the expenses during your journey.
Keep in mind you may have to make some particular investments before departure if you are going somewhere that calls for particular preparations and equipment or you are planning to do some special activities.
Expenses before departure can be:
- Clothes and equipment
- Travel gear
- Extra travel insurance for your destination and duration
- Visa expenses
- Vaccines for your particular destination
- Pre-paid flights and accommodation if you prefer
- Pre-paid activities
- Travel books
- Medical equipment
For long journeys, it can be smart to have some parts of the journey preplanned and others open.
Preplanned and pre-paid parts of the journey are good for predictability but bad for flexibility. Make sure to leave time slots (and money) open for impulsive whims as well!
You are going to meet people who tell you stuff you did not know before you left.
And you probably are going to want to change your plan or priorities now and then, stay longer or shorter in places – or go somewhere you didn`t know existed before you left home.
So, when you have decided on the costs of preparation and pre-planning before you leave, you also know what the rest of your budget will look like.
This will influence how long you can travel, in what style you can travel, and what activities you can participate in on the way.
You need to identify your requirements and set a general daily budget for yourself. Life is full of ruthless priorities; good luck.
4. Create Your Itinerary
Slow Travel Or Adventure Travel Or Fast-Lane Travel?
Based on your time available, prepaid flights, accommodation, travel style, and all the other things above, you are left with a playing budget for your journey!
If you have a set return date to go home, you can predict your daily budget. The money you distribute within your start- and end dates are dependent on your defined interests.
If you do not have a set return date, this is the money that will decide the duration of your journey – shorter or longer – depending on you.
Remember that this budget will also cover all the things you did not plan for.
The impulsive changes of travel plans and activities, change of flights, the amazing dive trip you suddenly heard about, or the extra bus ride and hotel or hostel at a place you found out about.
So the key is to be able to keep the fun-output high and the living expenses as low as possible.
Make sure you know what you may expect to pay for accommodation in your chosen destinations so you do not get any surprises.
Also, the prices of food and transportation options are smart to research beforehand.
5. Where To Stay, Eat & Have Fun
Although many websites will help you find accommodation, there are a lot of apps that are a great help to find amazingly chic or amazingly cheap, very last-minute bookings when you are in your impulsive phase!
If you are flexible and can handle the lack of pre-planning to a certain extent – this is a great option.
You can find the perfect way to travel solo that works for you, like booking a charter trip, an organized group tour, or just getting a plane ticket and traveling from day to day!
Even heading out on a road trip is a great way to travel solo; find out how to plan a perfect solo road trip here!
Every destination has its own special features and activities, courses, or adventures you may enjoy.
Check out the list below for a few ideas as to what you may try out, and remember that fear of feeling lonely?
Participating in cool and exciting things like this will probably stall your feeling of solitude more than enough!
6. Decide on Group Tours & Activities
- Join a small group tour on (parts of) your journey. This is a social, safe, and fun way to ease into solo traveling. I recommend these companies:
- I walked the Inca Trail and The Lost City in Colombia with G Adventures
- I have traveled around Cuba multiple times with Civitatis
- Register to do voluntary work before you go. I spent two weeks at Yana Cocha Wildlife Reserve in Ecuador, which was an amazing experience!
- Join a photo tour or a photography course
- To make friends, joining a bar crawl tour can also get a good idea
- Learn the local language (or any language) while traveling; there are lots of schools giving lessons. I learned Spanish while traveling South America
- Work for room and board – to increase your total travel time. Many hostels offer this
- Learn a new skill
- Surfing
- Yoga
- Dancing
- Meditation
- Cooking, take a local cooking course
- Anything that you love and that is available to you
Crushing The What If’s That Sabotage Your Adventures
Now, be aware that there may be some not-so-constructive players in your midst, and you need to identify them.
If not, your DREAM is going to go down the drain even before your PLAN can start evolving.
Do you have an inner voice that tells you this journey thing is ridiculous?
Because it is irresponsible or expensive or egoistic, or you are too old (young), or it is probably dangerous and possibly will kill you or at least ruin your career?
This voice is your FEAR talking, and you need to get past it.
Or do you have well-meaning people in your life who want to protect you? The ones that have not missed a workday in their career and care about safety precautions and predictability and securing a good pension plan?
These people might be positive about your dream BUT may turn out to be slightly more apprehensive about you starting to plan an actual journey, spending actual money on it, and being away.
Be aware if you have a history of “being talked sense into” – it will not help you turn your DREAM into an achievable PLAN.
So, choose your advisors wisely.
How To Plan A Solo Trip – Conquer Your Fears!
The good thing about your inner mental trolls is that they are yours, so you have some impact – and you can use your good sense to override it.
You just need to know they are there and not mistake them for the little voice of “common sense.”
Choose friends around you who are positive, realistic, AND pragmatic; you need quality advisors to back you up.
Your home-loving, adventure-adverse, overly careful friends may not be the best advisers in this matter.
8 Ways To Kill Your Demons
Here are some points for you so you can take it down from subjective emotions to facts and figures that might be helpful.
- You are not irreplaceable or indispensable at work. Your fear of absence is not real. Have you ever experienced someone who seems to have been away from the office for a few days—and it turns out they have been on holiday for weeks? Yeah, that is how fast time flies.
- As you are a valued, yet not indispensable, employee – you probably will be able to get a leave of absence without pay with a set return date at some point in the future. Find out how long you can realistically be away (without losing your job at some point)!
- If this journey is a life-changer for you, and you want to quit your job anyway, the above concern does not matter, but what about the “hole” in your CV (for longer journeys)?
Although subject to cultural differences, I would still say it is highly likely that a future employer within a segment that you would enjoy working in might appreciate the fact that you are a person who has invested in your personal growth through means of travel for some time.
You may also take courses online or at your destination during your journey to show off your desire to evolve. It could be positive; use it as a skill in your CV! - If you have children, well. I do not have children, so I can not have a strong opinion about that. It will be a personal assessment between you and your spouse or the other parent, as well as the children and their feelings.
- Your family and friends will miss you, and that is GOOD, not bad. And it does not mean that you can not leave them alone for a few weeks or months (or more) – they are adults and can take care of themselves. There is social media to stay connected, and if they miss you too much, they can even come to visit you for a week at some point in your journey (my parents did!).
- Set up an attainable budget with a reasonable timeline and think long-term if you need to. A realistic budget will calm down both your inner Troll and your worried surroundings. The math will beat any emotional argument, and odds are, the math says it is going to be possible.
- SAFETY! Are you going to survive all alone in the world? Well, the odds are yes. It is NOT dangerous to travel alone. What MAY be dangerous is to make bad judgments while traveling, like not researching your destinations, getting super drunk in Cali, Columbia, or walking home alone after midnight in a dark city you don’t know. Or not listening to locals and other clever little things.
The point is that these are all factors you can affect, so you take responsibility for your safety. And people are people everywhere; most of them are kind and helpful, so don’t be paranoid. - Then there is the fear of being lonely while traveling alone, which is a possible scenario, at least for periods – but again, there are ways to counter that. You can make friends – if you want to.
6 Great Tips For Not Feeling Lonely Traveling
Traveling solo definitely has the potential to make you feel lonely from time to time, as you are away from friends and family, and all your challenges and adventures are solely your own.
And although solitude can be a good feeling, loneliness might not be exactly so.
If you have a fear of feeling lonely while traveling solo, that is a factor you can benefit from working on before your trip.
There are things to do in order to manage and reduce the feeling of loneliness while “on the road.”
The most important thing is that you have a mental awareness, you are prepared for such a feeling, and if it occurs, you will not be overwhelmed by it.
Secondly, you do all the possible pre-trip preparations beforehand. Take a look at the list below, where I give you a lot of really smart and simple options to avoid making your solo travel experience lonely.
- Day trips: Book occasional organized activities with other people, many of whom are also traveling alone. You find this option almost everywhere in the world, through your hotel, hostel, FB groups, SoMe ads, and adventure companies where you are staying; there are so many options!
- Organized tours: Book parts of your journey through organized tour operators, like G Adventures, which organizes small group travels all over the world. G Adventures also organizes “bucket list” journeys like walking the magnificent Inca Trail.
- Accommodation: Even if you are a “single room minimum three-star hotel” kinda person, try booking into a nice hostel every now and then! That can be cheap and social, and although the clientele is predominantly relatively young – by far not all! Travelers come in all ages and sizes.
- Social Media: Check Facebook groups for solo female travelers and your destination. A LOT of people are traveling alone and looking for company and new friends.
- Use TINDER! If you can, that is, without feeling bad about it. You can connect with other travelers or locals who live where you currently are visiting. You might get a date, or a guide to show you your current city, or maybe a friend?
- Search Instagram for posts on your current or future destination. Both for tips on activities or things to see, but also maybe you find someone living there who would love to show you around for a few hours or a day!
- Ask locals: If you use Airbnb or Vrbo, you may be lucky (or smart) and find accommodation with very nice landlords or ladies who may offer both breakfasts and guidance on your current destination – making it at least social. Airbnb can also provide local activities in the area where you are staying; you will get suggestions in your e-mail immediately after you have booked your stay.
There are a lot of people traveling solo, and in my experience, you can quite easily make new friends while traveling if you want to. In fact, traveling solo does not necessarily mean traveling alone all the time!
FAQs Solo Female Travel
Is solo travel safe for women?
By now, you have probably gathered that I will say, yes, solo travel is safe for women.
However, the level of travel safety is, in a lot of ways, down to you and the preparations you make. Research destinations thoroughly, stay in safe areas and accommodations, avoid risky areas, consider registered taxis or Uber at night, and trust your instincts.
Always investing in good travel insurance and being mindful of local culture and cultural norms can also enhance safety.
Where Is The Best Place To Travel Solo As A Female?
There are many many destinations in the world that are amazing for solo female travelers.
What you might want to consider when you research your next destination are these factors:
- Gender culture
- Crime statistics
- Especially crimes against women
- Transport options
- Public transportation safety
- Language barriers?
What Is The Safest Country For Solo Female Travel?
The safest countries in the world to travel as a solo female traveler are the Nordic countries of Europe.
Sweden, Norway, Denmark, as well as Finland, and Iceland are super safe for women. Gender equality here is unsurpassed in the world, catcalling and unwanted attention is almost unheard of, and the crime statistics are generally low.
On the top 10 list of safest countries, you also find the Netherlands, Switzerland, Austria, Luxembourg, and New Zealand for 2024. All these countries would be perfect for your first trip.
How do you deal with loneliness while traveling alone?
While solo travel can feel lonely at times, there are ways to mitigate this by mental preparation and the choices you make while planning your journey.
Many women overcome this by staying in social accommodations like hostels, joining group tours, or using apps to connect with other travelers and loved ones at home.
If this is something you worry about, preparing well, planning shorter trips initially, and staying engaged with activities can also help.
How do you explain solo travel to family and friends who are concerned?
Many solo female travelers prepare their loved ones by sharing itineraries, maintaining regular communication, and demonstrating preparedness through thorough research.
Building confidence through shorter or group-based trips can also ease their concerns.
What are the best accommodations for solo female travelers?
Safety is a priority when choosing accommodations. Many women prefer centrally located hotels, female-only hostel dorms, or Airbnb rentals from female hosts.
Whatever is right for you, look for these main features:
- Safe neighborhood
- 24 hours reception
- Security storage
- Research reviews
Wrap-Up How To Plan A Solo Trip
If traveling solo sounds impossible, scary, or a tad more exciting than you prefer, but you still dream about it, I hope I have succeeded in telling you that you CAN do it.
Let me say it again: there are sooo many reasons why traveling alone is a travel category that is the most beautiful gem of travel, you might say, and none of them really are about being egoistic.
A solo adventure is NOT dangerous if you travel the right way, do your research and planning, ask for (and follow) advice, and stay present.
You will see things differently, you will learn things in a different way – and you will get to know yourself a lot better while also traveling safely.
I love traveling solo so much that I am even worried I might have become a horrible travel companion!
So, after reading my top tips, I hope you are ready to discover who you are in the wild when everyone you know is back at home – you will not regret it.
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